Anonymous QuestionI received this anonymous question terminal night through our Accept A Question page.  I accept more than take been there longer, and I intend to answer them, simply today I don't accept much time, and then I picked it because I thought information technology would exist brusque.  Plus, I become this question a lot, in various forms.  People inquire if they can ejaculate on their married woman'south stomach, legs, barrel, breasts, or face.  I don't think the location matters, with a caveat I'll share below.  And so, here's the question:

Is it alright to ejaculate on my wife? Kind of a tough 1 to observe a verse on.

Yeah, in that location are no verses on this topic, what-so-e'er.

Now, some may argue (I think errently), that Genesis 38:9-10, regarding Onan applies:

But Onan knew that the heir would non exist his; and it came to laissez passer, when he went in to his blood brother's married woman, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the Lord; therefore He killed him besides. – Genesis 38:9-x

However, this is bargain with Onan running from his responsibility to provide an heir for his brother's line, non because he "pulled out".  So, I'm going to disregard that verse in reference to this question, and propose you lot do the aforementioned.

Myself, I run across nothing incorrect with ejaculating on your married woman.  In fact, information technology can be beneficial in some circumstances.

When recovering from a porn/masturbation addiction

For those who are recovering from a porn/masturbation habit, I oft suggest this simple rule:

In her or on her.

And some of my coaching clients accept gone "eww…" at the thought, merely information technology works.  In short, the husband is not allowed to ejaculate anywhere except in, or on, his married woman.  Why?  Considering it removes the ability to orgasm alone and so it removes the ability for the hubby to take a sexual life apart from his wife.  Only, it still allows for mutual masturbation, and that can be very helpful for many husbands who are struggling to remove themselves from porn.  Sometimes husbands detect they can't have sex any more because they're so used to porn.  Their brain doesn't associate their wife with enough sexual stimulation to get erect, permit alone orgasm, and then common masturbation forms a bridge to retrain the husband to accept a sexual human relationship with his wife once again, and ejaculating on his married woman further helps that connection. It insures there are very shut when he orgasms, which helps when oxytocin is released and imprints that connection in his listen.

During her period

Many couples choose to refrain from sex during "that time of the month".  Only, that doesn't mean have to refrain from all sexual action.  Again, you tin can employ mutual masturbation to stay connected, and well, that's more than fun when you're closer together, and worrying about where you can ejaculate would put a damper on things.

When you run out of energy

While the stereotype is that men only take a few short minutes to orgasm, the truth is that some take considerably longer.  And while at that place may be some wives thinking "that would be amazing!"  It's less amazing if they struggle from delayed ejaculation.  Especially when they run out of free energy before they tin reach the point of orgasm.

So, the decision becomes once again, mutual masturbation, or surrender.

Earlier a gynecologist appointment

If the wife has a gynecologist appointment in the morn, but you still want to have sexual practice…she may prefer you ejaculate on her instead of in her.  Do I need to explain that 1?

Other times

And there may be more than.  Some wives like being able to experience information technology, and not all tin can feel ejaculation internally.  Some like to come across it (yes, some women are visual as well).  Some just don't want to walk around all twenty-four hour period feeling like they're "leaking".  So, there are lot of times where ejaculating on your wife may be beneficial.

Then far as I know, provided y'all have no STDs (or STIs as they're now called), then in that location are no reasons I tin think of, medically, biblically, spiritually or relationally where this could be harmful.  With one exception:

If your wife finds information technology degrading or gross, don't do it.  It doesn't thing if information technology's irrational, information technology doesn't matter if at that place'south zippo morally wrong with it.  It doesn't affair if you remember it's erotic.  You will impairment your relationship, and that's not worth information technology.  If yous are that wife, I'd suggest exploring why you feel that manner, because it's likely limiting your sexual enjoyment to accept this mindset, but husbands: don't push your married woman into this.  That would be utterly selfish and you will bear witness her you honey yourself more than your wife.

So, there you go.  I hope that answers the question.

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